Story by Gary Simpson
photo by Chris Mackenthun
“I don’t know if I’m interesting enough to be in a magazine,” was Jen Potcher’s first response to me asking to write about her. But, she did also say “I’d love to.”
I have known Jen for quite some time now, and can honestly say I’ve never met a more strong and compassionate ally.
Jen, herself is not gay, but she is very closely tied to so many members of our community. This past April, Jen joined the cast of Rent, as chorus member, and as “The Bag Lady, ” which she jokingly admits “was the best part in the show! Plus I got to say F—! ” She also added that playing in Rent was “the best experience of my life. ”
Rent played for five weeks at Stagecoach Theater in Boise. The show was so popular, 3 extra shows were added on to accommodate. Jen also has worked at The Balcony Club since 2010. She began hosting karaoke night Sundays in 2011 .
In 2012, Jen sang the National Anthem to a crowd in front of the Capital Building during the Pride Festival, and in 2013, she opened the Pride Festival at Ann Morrison Park.
More recently, Jen has recently joined as a member of the Imperial Sovereign Gem Court of Idaho – a community organization dedicated to raising money for other local charities and organizations. When asked why she joined this group she was quite simple in her reply, “I have always loved drag queens, and I love to watch them perform. I love that they raise money for the community. ”
During our conversation, I explained to her why I chose to interview her. I told her that I’ve watched her in what she does for the community, know she’s heavily involved with a number of activities, and I always see her stand up for other people in the community, especially when there’s unnecessary discord between fellow members of the community.
“I’ve always felt drawn to the LGBT Community, ” she said. “When I was younger, I was picked on, and made fun of, and I can really relate to what [they] have been through. ”
We discussed the changes that have happened throughout our community, with the dissolution of Boise Pride Inc, and the birth of Boise Pridefest.
When asked about what she would like to see change in our community, Jen was very candid with her response, “I would like to see people have more respect for each other, and for people to be more careful. We can’t win the fight by tearing each other apart from the inside. ”
More recently, Jen has posted to Facebook a heartfelt story that explains her dedication even more:
“People often ask me why it’s important to me to be an ally and spend so much time fighting for equality and gay rights. I spent a good portion of my life being picked on and ostracized because of who I was. Nothing was sacred…Not the music I listened to or the clothes I wore, not the movies I liked or the books I read, not the things I collected.”
“I was given a beautiful plastic horse from my granny. It was a Clydesdale from Bush Gardens. I was so proud of it, that I took it to school with me and carried it around all day. I’d proudly place it on whatever desk in whatever class I was sitting in.
What followed, I will never understand. From that day on I was mercilessly mocked. I was given the nickname “pony” by several people in my class…Not for a good reason. They mocked me for years with that name. Some of them might be reading this now. It didn’t matter what I did, I never seemed to get out of that stigma of not being one of the “normal” kids. That stuck with me for a long time and for a long time made me afraid to really be myself.
There were a lot of other things about me that people made fun of, but that is one that sticks strong in my memory. I haven’t told that story in years, but I think it’s a small piece of the puzzle as to why I do what I do. I know what it’s like to be picked on and pushed aside because you are different…Because you don’t fit the mold that your peers think you should fit into.
Take it on a much grander scale and put it into every day life…Jobs and family and home and laws…And you have what my beloved LGBT family goes through. No one should ever be persecuted or denied rights for being just who they are…Loving who they love, being who they deep down believe themselves to be.
And that community has accepted me with open arms and even though I am straight, they accept me unconditionally as exactly who am. I don’t have to hide the things that I love, and neither should they. Today and every day, if you are LGBT, stand up and be proud of who you are.
Don’t let anyone make you feel like there is something wrong with you or that you are broken. You are just who and what you are supposed to be. And if you are an ally like me, stand up and be proud!
Don’t let anyone make you afraid to stand up for what’s right. And that’s why I do it. Because it’s right. Because no one stood up for me when I was 12 years old and being picked on and felt so alone. Because if they can be so accepting of me, why can’t the rest of the world be accepting of them? And the last few days prove that we are winning this fight.”
And that, was the exact reason I chose Jen Potcher to interview. Far too often our community spends more time in discord, fighting over nonsense when we should be standing up for each other and treating one another with respect. Thank you, Jen, for being a perfect example of what we should be in our community! I hope others can be as positive and driven as you are!